Recently, my sweet M-I-L suffered a fall, and fractured a part of her knee. Although my Sweetie and I had already discussed this particular topic long before she became injured, her accident really brought it to the forefront. You see, I had been thinking that perhaps we should begin thinking about preparing for that phase in life when you need assistance to get around. In preparation for that future which would hopefully be very far off I thought it might be a good idea to remodel certain areas of our house in a handicap accessible manner- namely bathrooms and entrances as well as certain parts of the kitchen. I felt that in the event one of us needed those types of facilities, it would be best if they were already in place. It wouldn't be very much fun to find yourself having to deal with the 'need' for them when you didn't have them. Of course, this type of discussion is always deemed as a very good idea, but something we can put off.
Well, with his Mother's accident, it fell upon his shoulders to begin to make her house handicapped user friendly, since she will need to use a wheelchair for a while. His Father was just too overwhelmed with their present situation, and has enough to deal with what with keeping her company and seeing to her needs. Through all this, my Sweetie has learned a lot. In dealing with contractors and building inspectors, every single element has been a good learning experience. It hasn't been a walk in the park, but I think the greatest lesson learned here is to be prepared for the unexpected. In a few months, his Mother will recover fully. We are thankful for that. But should she or my F-I-L ever need to have special care, their home will be ready.
Certainly finances always weigh heavily on anyone's ability to carry out preparations for the unforeseen. Thankfully, a project such as this is not as costly as we had thought. More importantly, it's money well spent.
It brings to mind something else that I learned from my Mother. She made preparations for hers and my Dad's funeral arrangement years before it was even in the horizon that they might become ill. Her greatest worry was being a burden on her two children. So when the time came, everything was already in order. My Sister and I were free to grieve without the stress of making decisions. Only minor arrangements that still had to be made remained and were taken care of. So that is the first thing on my mind, taking care of business so my Sons don't have to.
As to our house, we will be better informed consumers when we do decide to begin the arduous task of implementing our ideas.
Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. ~Philippians 4:8~